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September Newsletter

Welcome to Rafan House’s September newsletter! What’s here?In this newsletter, look out for:– a short article: Creating certainty – “the best-laid plans of mice and men gang aft agley” – but we plan nevertheless.  We look at how to create short-term certainty in an uncertain world. – a link to our recently-published book, The Cambridge Code – One simple test to … Continued

July Newsletter

Welcome to Rafan House’s July newsletter! What’s here? In this newsletter, look out for: – Don’t let the old man in – people are understandably fearful as the world edges toward easing restrictions, and it will be hard to regain self-confidence.– a link to our recently-published book, The Cambridge Code – One simple test to uncover who you are. Don’t let … Continued

June Newsletter

Welcome to Rafan House’s June newsletter! What’s here?In this newsletter, look out for:– a short article: Helping to lift them up – Supporting parents of children (of whatever age) with mental health issues– a link to our recently-published book, The Cambridge Code – One simple test to uncover who you are.– And finally – it’s nearly the holidays! – ish. Helping … Continued

March Newsletter

Welcome to Rafan House’s March newsletter! What’s here? In this newsletter, look out for:– a short article: Ever wondered what psychotherapeutic help might look like? – A look at what clients-patients might realistically expect from clinicians– a link to our recently-published book, The Cambridge Code – One simple test to uncover who you are.– A bunch of spring flowers!Ever wondered what … Continued

Newsletter to Schools

Welcome to Rafan House’s school newsletter! What’s here? In this newsletter, look out for: – a short article: Teachers are the professionals – A look at the first week back to school for teachers.– a link to our recently-published book, The Cambridge Code – One simple test to uncover who you are.– A bunch of spring flowers! Teachers are the professionals … Continued

Teachers are the professionals in schools

But sometimes it is hard to remember that, with so much external pressure on them. Schools have been back for a week now, with pupils’ re-entry being staggered.  Word is that pupils are REALLY happy to be back, in the main, and so are teachers.  There are issues of course – pupils have to acclimatise … Continued

Ever Wondered What Psychotherapeutic Help Might Look Like?

People who need therapeutic help are often put off looking for it by fears of being locked into an endless process with a clinician they don’t like, or which is too expensive or ineffective.  But what should you realistically expect from a clinician?  This is something we are asked all the time, and something which … Continued

Benefits of Online Psychotherapy

There is absolutely no doubt that Covid 19 is proving to be a blight on our lives in so many ways, economically as well as physically.  It has also been a challenge psychologically for those already undergoing a therapeutic intervention and those who need psychotherapy as a result of Covid lockdown.  For them, the inability to … Continued

How Words Fail Us – Just When They Matter Most

We have all been there – the moment in the restaurant or café when the coffee arrives and ends up being accidentally tipped over us.  What happens to our emotional reactions in that moment?  For you, there may be a range of responses – from outrage, voluble anger through to mild irritation.  For the waiter, … Continued

Post-Covid Trauma and Resetting the Boundaries

Some people will already be in the thick of re-entry, and others will be facing the imminent prospect of Community Life After Covid.  It adds a whole new flavour to the phrase ‘Living Apart Together’, bringing with it a need for new boundaries.  And all this has to be managed alongside the (often unconscious) trauma … Continued